In 2013, Zerlina Maxwell ignited a firestorm of controversy when she strongly recommended we stop telling women how to not get raped.
“I don’t think that we should be telling women anything. I think we should be telling men not to rape women and start the conversation there with prevention.”
So essentially — instead of teaching women how to avoid rape, let’s raise boys specifically not to rape.
There was a lot of ire raised from that idea. Maxwell was on the receiving end of a deluge of online harassment and scary threats because of her ideas, which is sadly common for outspoken women.
People assumed it meant she was labeling all boys as potential rapists or that every man has a rape-monster he carries inside him unless we quell it from the beginning.
But the truth is most of the rapes women experience are perpetrated by people they know and trust. So fully educating boys during their formative years about what constitutes consent and why it’s important to practice explicitly asking for consent could potentially eradicate a large swath of acquaintance rape. It’s not a condemnation on their character or gender, but an extra set of tools to help young men approach sex without damaging themselves or anyone else.
Comic artist Alli Kirkham has attempted to help clear up any confusion with a series of 7 comics that illustrate sexual consent issues with everyday situations that are easier for everyone to understand. Yes – it is that easy…
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